Clinterview: Man Vs. Emotion (part 6)

A quickie about what men learn from a young age what their sexual objective is.

Do You Believe In Magic

       Early this morning, I awoke from an absolutely amazing dream.
       In the dream, I was hearing and singing a song. The song however, was a hugely popular one from the waking world, with the melody and the lyrics precisely in tact. This is incredibly rare in the dream state. Songs heard in dreams almost always morph into other sounds. And they rarely sound exactly the same in the dream state as they do in the awake state.
       The song I heard has thus been driven far into my subconscious. And that’s no surprise. Because it’s one of those songs that I know reaches something deep and mystical inside of me. It’s one of those songs I find so beautiful that it makes me ball like a kid at Christmas who just got THE toy.
       The title and message of the song, “Do You Believe In Magic”, are perfectly reflective of my experience of it. This is the verse, word for word, note for note, that I heard in my dream....

“If you believe in magic
Come along with me
We'll dance until morning 'til there's just you and me
And maybe, if the music is right
I'll meet you tomorrow, so late at night
And we'll go dancing,
BABY THEN YOU’LL SEE
HOW THE MAGIC’S IN THE MUSIC AND THE MUSIC’S IN ME”

       Those who know and love me, know that, indeed, The Music and The Magic Are In Me. In fact, The Magic is In Us All. Imagine how our lives would be if we all believed that, accessed that Magic, and constantly shared our Magic with each other. Imagine how our planet would be if we shared our Magic with the world.


©2013 Clint Piatelli, MuscleHeart, and Red F Publishing. All Rights Reserved

Private Dance

       While on my way to my favorite coffee shop on Cape Cod, I heard the song “Stayin’ Alive” by the Bee Gees. Like so much of the music I love, it made me want to dance. Dancing, however, wasn’t possible. Not because I was in my car. But because I was driving. So I did the next best thing; I sang, bopped my head, swiveled my hips in the leather seat, and played air drums, air bass, and air guitar. Maybe even some air keyboards. One of my Bottom Lines is that it’s possible to get your groove thang happenin’, no matter what your circumstances.
       Anyway, the classic seventies disco anthem reminded me of an idea I’ve had for a long time, but have yet to realize. I love this idea. It’s simple yet elaborate. Silly yet beautiful. Fun yet intense.
       Many of us love to dance. Yet many are self conscious of dancing in public. Alcohol helps. But sometimes even that’s not enough. If you’re with a partner you find sexy and attractive and fun (and frankly, if you don’t find your partner at least two out of those three, do both yourselves a favor and go find one you do, because you both deserve to be with somebody you find appealing), dancing together can be an amazing mutual experience. It’s exercise. It’s playful. It's joyous. It’s sexy. It can be hours of foreplay. It’s simply too good not to enjoy with the one you love. Or even the one you like.
       I am blessed with good rhythm. And I would describe myself as.....uninhibited. If you haven’t developed a good sense of rhythm and are somewhat inhibited, well dancing in front of a bunch of people can be intimidating. And not very inviting. So as much as it may be something you want to do with your partner, doing it under those circumstances is unlikely. And I completely understand that.
       So, if you can’t bring yourself to the dancing, then bring the dancing to you.
       Create your own disco, just for you and your partner, within your own home, and dance there. If you want to make it a little more social, invite a few couples who you’re really comfortable being with over too.
       Creating your own disco is easy, but there are a few essentials that must be in place for it to succeed. And, given your motivation and the space you have to work with, you can really go to town, to varying degrees, and make this into something really special. Something the two of you will want to create regularly. Potentially an Instant Couples Ritual, or ICR, as I call them. Actually, that’s the first time I ever used the term. But I really like it. So I’m claiming it.
       The first thing you need for a great disco is great music. And “great music” is a completely relative term. You and your partner get to mutually choose what music you want to dance to together. The creation of the set list should be a fun, bonding experience. It can, however, be a source of contention if the two of you have completely incompatible tastes in music. But it’s all good. Because whether you’re both into P-Funk, or he’s a member of The Kiss Army and the most raucous music you’ve ever listened to is Debbie Gibson, it’s an opportunity to practice communication and compromise skills. It’s an opportunity to give to one another. To find out more about each other. An opportunity to work together. Relationship Building 101.
       Sit down, together, with your respective digital music devices, or album collections if your old school, and together create a list of tunes to dance to. Do it over a bottle of wine some night. Make it fun. Make it an opportunity to connect. Make it an opportunity to work things out; to love and support and respect each other. Make it a living example of the axiom “It’s no so much what you do as how you do it”.
       Now you get to create your space. You get to create your disco. This process. and the actual space you create from it, can be simple, or elaborate, or anything in between. It’s totally up to the two of you. You can do it together, or you can delegate it to one partner. Again, use it as an opportunity to work together, however that looks. You’re both building something. Build this wonderful “something” together. And notice how this process simultaneously builds the bond between you. And that’s a beautiful thing.
       No matter what space you create, there are some critical elements that must be in place, besides the mutually created music list. And I’ll delve into those critical elements in my next post.
       One of things you’re building together is anticipation and excitement. Hopefully, I’ve done my job as a writer and created some anticipation and excitement (and curiosity) in you so you’ll tune in for the next installment. Stay Alive.....

©2013 Clint Piatelli, MuscleHeart, and Red F Publishing. All Rights Reserved.

Heart On My Wall

       Light. An amorphous phenomenon.
       We define visible light scientifically as electromagnetic radiation within a specific wavelength. As strangely poetic as that sounds, and despite that visible light largely defines our experience of life itself, that doesn’t begin to tell the whole story. Light is infinitely vaster and more mysterious.
       Some people seem to glow with a light that we don’t see as much as feel. Even when it’s completely dark, light is everywhere around us. Some people are enlightened, which means they have been able to shine light on parts of themselves that were once dark. They are then able to assist others in shining their own light into themselves.
       Light is the basis of color. And color gives life vibrance. Both literally and metaphorically. Color effects brain chemistry. I physically and mentally and emotionally get excited by bright, shiny, sparkly, colorful things. I feel it. I absolutely feel colors. Many of us do. That’s one reason I painted my house purple. And why I like to wear colorful clothing. I feel brighter and more alive when I’m wearing something colorful. Just a personal reality.
       In the fall, the landscape explodes with color as the leaves on the trees change into a firestorm. The sun shifts position in the sky, changing the lighting so that the world actually looks and feels different. In the winter, I mean in a good winter, the landscape once again changes, as snow makes the world look and feel different. In the spring and summer, reality shifts yet again, dominated by the green of trees, the blue of the ocean, and the colorful addition of flowering plants. It’s endless.
       The world, indeed our very visible reality, is the infinite canvas upon which light paints the pictures of our life. Constantly shifting, changing, moving. Even if we are standing still.
       And sometimes, light sends a specific message.
       The other day, light coming through my window, reflecting and bending, through and around who knows what, created a heart on my wall. I was talking to my sister at the time, whom I love very much. In our conversation, we were talking about people we love. Light took notice. And painted it’s picture. Or perhaps, my sister and I co-created, the heart of light with the light from our hearts. Probably both.
       The heart reminded me that light and love are the way. No matter what.

©2013 Clint Piatelli, MuscleHeart, and Red F Publishing. All Rights Reserved.    

Open Of Heart, Young At Heart

Open Of Heart
Young At Heart

Better for your love life than a new partner
Better for your libido than Viagra or Provestra
Better for your mood than Prozac
Better for your friends than material gifts
Better for your family than a trip to DisneyWorld
Better for your soul than religion
Better for your body than a new outfit
Better for your mind than more thinking

Open Of Heart
Young At Heart

Better for your lover
Than almost anything

                              -Clint Piatelli

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